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This is just me and just how I feel. I am not saying anyone else should feel the same, but if they do, great!
I wish that more men would embrace the duality of their being. I feel that everyone, male and female, has two sides to their being. There is up and down, east and west, dark and light, wet and dry, heads and tails, leader and follower, etc.
Mostly everything in our lives has a second side, a dual nature.
I am bringing this up because I saw The Best Man Holiday and there were scenes where the male characters were emotional and crying. Also in the theatre, there were men crying while watching the movie. This display of emotion made me happy but also made me reflect on society and it’s “rules” of manhood. I have heard numerous people say that men aren’t supposed to cry and as little boys we are often taught by an adult to not be soft; to be tough and not show emotion because emotion equals weakness.
This mentality bothers me deeply because I feel it creates incomplete men who, in turn, become incomplete brothers, lovers, and fathers.
I was awakened today by the sounds of an altercation between my neighbor and some guys that don’t even live here. Couldn’t really decipher what the argument/fight was about but at the end of it all I started thinking about violence… why do we [society] feel like fighting is wrong?
In nature the animals fight for territory, for mates, for food. They have scuffles and then get over it. I feel that it is natural for people to have aggression and feel anger towards another and I also feel that it is natural to release that aggression upon the person it is intended for. A good ole fist fight is not bad, but I do believe when people start bringing weapons and objects into the situation that it has gone too far.
Therapists are always saying that people need to release their feelings and to not keep things bottled inside. Well if it works for feelings and emotions why not work for actions? Sometimes the only way to express the magnitude of the feelings is through action. When we live someone, we do things for them and show them. When we are happy for someone, we express it through cards and gifts and texts and hugs and smiles. So when we are angry, sometimes words are not enough. Sometimes a person needs to learn their lesson about testing your being…[now let me say this though. I do not condone the physical violence of a man towards a woman or an adult towards a child. All physical altercations, in my eye, should be enacted between parties of similar age, gender, and sometimes stature]
There was a time when I was uncomfortable in my own skin. I would deny my feelings and downplay my wants. I would hide my dreams and aspirations because I was afraid of the ridicule and judgement of others. Then I grew up, met some amazing people, and learned to love myself. The only “person” that I should worry about accepting and loving me, already does. I strive for constant improvement in all that I am and all that I do. I WILL NOT apologize for being me. I can’t apologize for being black and I can’t apologize for being a man…those are things that can’t be changed, just like who I am. #thoughts #expression #apology #sorry #acceptance #love #byefelicia #self
I know that there are rules and guidelines in place to keep order, uniformity, and balance in our lives, but sometimes when I really sit and ponder some of the rules that we have, I just want to know “why”? Who came up with some of this stuff and why do we have to follow it? Maybe we don’t. Maybe, just maybe, we each take the societal rules and sift through them to figure out what works and what doesn’t. I just don’t want to be complacent or stuck,